Queen
Okafor is a unique woman with unique features. She has a rare endowment
from nature. Looking at her, one would think she is a man, but she is a
full blooded woman. Queen, as her name suggests, has become a
celebrity of sort whenever she steps out in public as the people stare
at her in amazement. Queen’s attraction is an abundance of hairs all
over her body especially in the upper region- face, hands, chests etc.
Although she was born without much hair on her body, she gradually began
sprouting them at the age of 21 years. Today, at 26, Queen has done
many things humanly possible to stop the abnormal growth, but to no
avail.
Narrating
her experience, Queen said she started noticing the hair at unusual
places at the age of 21. When this reporter met Queen in a bus going to
Oshodi from Mile 2, in Lagos some months ago, passengerswere starring at
her embarrassingly. As the lady tried to hide her face, more eyes were
on her, thus arousing much interest from co-passengers. Queen eventually
opened up to this reporter, maintaining that she was not using the
story to beg for money or as a form of publicity stunt, but only to draw
the attention of NGOs to fight for women with such rare disability as
hers. Queen believes that she is a normal person with unwanted
recognition from the society. She told Sunday Sun:
“My
name is Queen Nonyerem Okafor. I am from Anambra State. We are five
children from our parents, three girls and two boys. I inherited the
hairs from my mum and it runs in the family. Once you get to 21 to 23
years in our family, you start experiencing hair growth. I am 26 years
old now, when I was in secondary school, much hairs were not on my
body. It started when I finished my secondary school. I am not granting
you this interview as if I need help or money, no! I want to tell my
story and what it means to be a hairy woman. All I need is for an NGO to
take up my case as a woman with abnormal conditions and also to act in
the movie industry.”
She
revealed to Sunday Sun that the change on her skin initially made her
uncomfortable, but following advice from good people, her confidence was
boosted. In her words: “The first time it started to grow on my body, I
was ashamed, but someone advised me that I shouldn’t bother, that it is
a blessing not a curse. The person told me that I am unique, besides,
wherever I go, I would be recognised. She advised me that I shouldn’t be
ashamed, rather that I should be proud of myself. It was her that gave
me strength and boosted my self esteem. Some people think that I am a
man. Some think I fixed my breast to deceive people. Men especially find
it difficult to believe that I am a woman. It was when we interact that
most men are reassured that I am a woman. It has made me to be very
popular and recognised in public. It has boosted my confidence to
socialize. People want to identify with me to know the stuff I am made
of. Some want to find out where this girl is coming from. People call
and dash me money because of my hairy nature, but I don’t beg for
money.”
Queen
said she tried to stop the work of nature by applying all sorts of
cosmetics and native substances, all to no avail but it turned out to
cause more harm than good. “Before the advice came, I was asking God
why all these now? I was thinking of what to rub to clear the hair from
my skin. I rubbed tortoise faeces and a lot of things people recommend
for me to use, but it didn’t remove them, rather it caused more harm
than good as I started growing bumps and sores while the hair was still
coming out. So, I stopped rubbing those things. I suffered those lumps
trying to stop the growth,” she narrated. She revealed that her worst
time comes when the weather is too hot and during the dry season. “When
there is much heat, I feel terrible, it doesn’t itch but it really
inconveniences me most times. That`s why I have to wear or put on light
cloths because sweat soaks my dress when I go out. Once you see me, you
know that heat is dealing with me as a result of my hairy skin. I used
to shave it off but if I want to shave all, it will cause me lumps all
over my body. She said she had not taken the medical option seriously.
“I have not gone to hospital. I don’t care anymore because it is from
within my blood and it is hereditary. I don’t need it because I can`t
be using my money on something that refuses to free me. A doctor had
advised that surgery can remove it, but not in Nigeria. Maybe outside
the country, but I am not interested.”
Queen
revealed that her hair has not changed anything in her love life,
neither does it stop men from admiring her, rather it has turned many
heads to look at her. “A man that is meant for me will come when the
time comes. It is not a problem. I will get married, after all, there
are other disabled people that are married despite their condition. When
I was 18 or 19 years old, I was supposed to have married, but it was
just that the man was a hot tempered person. He was my suitor and we
ended it there. He was seeing the hair coming little by little. People
are appreciating me and a lot of people are still coming for my hand in
marriage. I have been seeing many men coming to ask me for relationship,
even one claimed he is from aEuropean country that he came back to
Nigeria to look for a woman to marry. But most men just want a fling,
they don’t want serious relationship. I was doubting if he was real or
not. I have admirers just like every other girl. Most times, I have
admires more than normal girls. But most men are not sincere, my mother
would say that love is not by lip service. I have been hearing things
like, I want to marry you, but after sleeping with you, the man will end
up dumping you for another woman. My boyfriend likes me the way I look
and I have not been dumped because I am hairy. Men don’t break my heart.
I don’t trust men easily because I wouldn’t allow myself to have
emotional breakdown. I can`t wait for my heart to be broken. In my
village, an old woman has advised that she knows that I am not yet
married, but I should believe that my own person is coming. She said
that when my husband will come, I will find it difficult to believe that
the man is my own. She told me that is how her own daughter looks. But
now I have come to appreciate how I am created,” she said. Narrating her
most embarrassing moment in high density locations like market places,
she disclosed that people crave to see her face.
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