When it
comes to relationships a lot of us men could use some help in knowing how to
make things better.
We don’t always understand women (if ever for some) but we have to learn the things we
can improve upon when we are in or want to be in a relationship, and especially
a marriage.
What they feel should be common sense to us, sometimes eludes our minds. So to
try to help correct that issue I give you 3 thingsyou should always
tell your woman, and should help improve your relationship with
her.
1. The Truth
I completely
understand how difficult it can be to be completely honest with women. We feel
many can’t handle the truth and sometimes the truth might get us a slashed tire
or a verbal lashing. What we are failing to realize is that with every lie you
tell your partner, you setup a bigger downfall later. Lies eventually come out,
and when they do the trust level in your relationship takes
a bigger hit. This can lead into other issues and the deterioration of your relationship.
Honesty may
not always be what we want, but it is what we need.
We men have
to learn that a lot of times it’s not what you say, but how you say it. Yes,
some things are going to get negative backlash, regardless.
But when the smoke clears, you won’t have compounded the issues with more lies.
Honesty may not always be what we want, but it is what we need. For those of
you thinking “well if I told her the truth then she may leave me.” My
suggestion to you is to stop doing thingsyou will feel the need to
lie about to your partner. Take a more effective approach to addressing the
issues and you won’t put yourself in that unwanted predicament.
2. She Is
Beautiful
I don’t care
if she just woke up looking like a train just hit her. You should always be
able to look yourwoman in
the eye and tell her how beautiful she is. What may seem like a simple gesture
to you, can mean so much to your woman.
It’s not necessarily just about the words spoken, but she wants to know you
desire her and think highly of her. Trying to get some booty from her on a
regular is cool (in regards to showing desire) but it isn’t going to speak to
her heart like telling her and showing her how much she means to you and how
beautiful she is.
Many of us
men tend to overlook the simple things that hold a lot of
meaning to a woman. Compliments can be very important. This doesn’t
mean you have to say these things every single day, because it
may start losing its impact (consult with your woman on that
because this opinion can vary). Just make sure you make an effort to do it and
be genuine with it. (Side Note: If you already have the habit of telling yourwoman how
sexy she is that’s great. Just understand that is not the same thing as telling
her she is beautiful. Many women may view “sexy” as something more s*xual while
“beautiful” speaks more to her as a person.)
3. Your
Business
I already
know what many are thinking. “Why the hell does she need to know all my business?”…”What
happened to respecting people’s privacy?”…” She knows too damn much already”
and so on. I get it, but this isn’t the way to think in a marriage.
This is your wife, and it is important to let her into your world. That doesn’t
mean you can’t have some space and do you (to a certain extent). It just means
allowing her to be aware of things, opening up to her more, and sharing your
life with her. This will only strengthen the bond of the relationship and
that is a great thing. Choosing to exclude her will open the door to other
issues. It gets a little harder to trust someone when you don’t know what is
going on in their life. You run the risk of making her feel less valued and
less loved. You also make it easier for people outside the relationship to
have a negative impact on it. If you can’t let her in to your world then why
did you get married?. You really have some things that you
need to look at or work through if you are not embracing this principle.
I genuinely
believe that doing these three things will absolutely improve
your marriage and help keep it strong. Of course with #1 you
may have a rough and unpleasant experience. If you can overcome that obstacle,
then slowly but surely, things will improve as you continue
with being honest. The goal is to move in a more positive direction and we men
have plenty to work on to make sure this happens. Don’t read this article and
then talk about what she is or isn’t doing. Just focus on what you can control
which are your actions and your approach to the relationship. Set
the tone and lead by example.
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